After Black Lotus became a reborn person, he went completely crazy

Chapter 568 The Right Person, Everything Is Right

After Xia Ran's analogy, Li Mingzhu finally understood everything.

"I think what you said is very right. Rights and obligations should exist at the same time. Otherwise it would be too unfair. Why?

According to this logic, Cheng Lu's husband is not a good person. When his mother was sick, he didn't move forward and pushed Cheng Lu out.

Isn't Cheng Lu a big victim? He is at a great disadvantage."

“I also want to ask why?

Also, what does Cheng Lu's husband do specifically? Does he hold a high position? Does he earn much more than Cheng Lu?"

Li Mingzhu waved her hands, "No, no.

As far as I know, he is a small clerk in the Water Conservancy Bureau and his job is quite leisurely.

I am not as busy as Cheng Lu on a daily basis, and I earn less than half as much as Cheng Lu.

His family lived in a crowded and dirty tube-shaped building with many people but few rooms.

The kitchen and toilet are shared by many households. The family conditions are much worse than Cheng Lu’s mother’s family.”

"In this case, Cheng Lu's husband is smart enough to pull Cheng Lu into their family's quagmire and help him alleviate poverty and support the family.

Cheng Lu is a smart guy, how did he end up in this den of wolves? "

Li Mingzhu said weakly, "Sister Xia, they are from the same school and have been dating since college."

"This is being deceived. As expected, love makes people blind.

She is a good lady from a wealthy family, but she ended up in this pit without knowing why?

I remember when I first met her, the way she treated others showed that she was a girl who was brought up in a pampered family.

She was also very generous with her money, and I thought she had married well."

"No, Sister Xia, Cheng Lu is generous with her money because her parents are worried that she doesn't have enough money, so they give her some extra money from time to time.

Given the financial situation of his husband's family, they couldn't afford those two blankets.

Her husband's family, although it sounds good, they are city dwellers with Shanghai hukou, but the reality is that they live in poor conditions and have poor food, and their life is very difficult."

"I see, no wonder." A girl who grew up in pampered condition is easily attracted to the opposite sex who live in a different level from her.

After all, she has rarely seen men like this since she was a child.

If the other person is a little bit different from her friends or acquaintances around her, she will pay attention and take notice.

As she paid more and more attention to him, she began to wonder why he was so different from all the men she had met before.

Once you feel that the other person is different from others, you will gradually take that person to heart. Once that person is taken to heart, you will no longer be able to listen to other people's words or suggestions.

Her mind and imagination automatically turned on a 20-level filter for this man, and she felt that he was the best and most unique man in the world.

He is the man destined for her, so she will not marry anyone else, no matter what.

In fact, after I got married and started living a simple life, I found out that all the differences in her eyes were actually countless small pits of trouble.

They were waiting for her, this virgin, to voluntarily jump in and help fill the hole and share the responsibility without hesitation.

Then help the other party pull these hind legs ashore.

Li Mingzhu sighed deeply, "Sister Xia, I'm too scared to date anyone now. I suddenly feel that marriage is so scary."

Xia Ran took a sip of tea and continued, "What's scary is not marriage itself, but that you chose the wrong person to marry.

If you choose the right person, everything will be right; if you choose the wrong person, all your efforts will be in vain. Choice is more important than effort.

When you date someone in the future, you must be careful. You don't have to marry someone higher, but you can never marry someone lower.

What I mean by marrying high or low has nothing to do with the region, but has to do with the family's wealth and level of cognition.

If you can choose a good condition, don't choose a bad one. You have to despise the poor and love the rich. The life of a poor family is very different from that of a rich family.

If we have the opportunity to live a prosperous life, we must live a prosperous life. We can't just endure hardships.

Of course, we can't just look at money and wealth. Whether a family is far-reaching and worth marrying into depends on their family style, level of cognition, and character.

This matter is very, very important, even more important than wealth and power itself.

At least you should not marry a so-called city person who is nothing, thinks he is superior to others, looks down on everyone, but lives in a slum.

Such people have no self-awareness and are always complaining. They only try to highlight their sense of superiority by finding faults in others.

Just think about it, these people must be so poor in their hearts and so financially destitute that they would elevate themselves by belittling others.

You said that if their family was wealthy or aristocratic, they would look down on their daughter-in-law who came from a commoner family. We agree with this.

After all, they are not a good match, so it's no wonder that the other party looks down on you through the cracks in the door.

The problem is, they themselves are at the bottom of society. They are obviously living in dire straits, yet they act like they look down on everyone. I wonder who they are trying to disgust to death?

Mingzhu, tell me, aren't these people the most disgusting and annoying? They have no self-awareness at all and they don't know what they are doing. They are just complete idiots.

However, these idiots can only take advantage of those new brides who are thin-skinned, well-educated and well-educated.

If a powerful shrew came, she could tear their mouths apart and tear down their homes.

In my opinion, such families are spoiled.”

In later generations, there were many courses that taught women how to manage marriages and relationships, and these courses were once touted as something very important.

In fact, those who are older and have some experience, and have seen more people and things, will find that managing marriage and relationships is a false proposition.

Anything can be managed except love and marriage.

In reality, a good marriage does not need to be managed, it is a fate destined by heaven.

This falls into the realm of metaphysics and cannot be explained from a three-dimensional perspective.

If the person is right, everything is right.

If you hire the wrong people, no matter how good you are at management, it will be useless.

For example, if there is a person who is born to love eating, drinking, whoring and gambling, he will remain the same no matter who marries him.

He won't change because of a woman.

All those perfect men and women who don't cheat in real life do so either because their other half is good enough, beautiful enough, or handsome enough.

It's because they are excellent enough, have their own principles and bottom line that they don't cheat.

Instead of trying hard to learn how to manage this relationship, it is better to learn how to choose people and solve the problem fundamentally.

Choose the right person and live a good life.

If you can’t meet the right one, then just stay single and love yourself.

Instead of learning how to manage this relationship, it is better to look at various actual legal cases, broaden your horizons, and learn more about human nature.

It is more important to learn how to better protect the legal rights and interests of yourself and your children.

Many lawyers in later generations do not get a marriage certificate. They just work together to have and raise children. If they are compatible, they stay together. If they are not, they separate. It is simple and clear.